FRIENDS with EX

Friends with ur EX! tettttttt ^_^     >_<     @_@     #_#  

Have u ever experienced being friends with ur ex? Ok i question u, can u really stay friends after u've split with a guy or will u both be harbouring unhelpful hidden agendas fed by lust, love or a desire for revenge? All's fine till he finds out about ur new BOYFRIEND!

If i question myself, my answer is YES. but long long time ago :P

OMG no words, there's nothing more cringeful than seeing my ex for the 1st time since we split. How should i handle? If i make a quit exit it will look like im still not over him or that i feel like a complete heel bout causing breakup. If i hv polite conversation then every eye will be on the two of us & we could end up with the awkwardness of dealing with the "let's catch up for coffee sometime" scenario.

Its a nice idea, after all, at one point, i thought this guy was the one, so why i throw all those years down the drain when i could still remain friends for old time's sake. time for a reality check and be honest with myself. we still be friends? will be able to chat about studies and friends n our love life without feeling we're entering dangerous or difficult territory? or will meeting up for a latte or three every few months lead to an emotional slippery slope where i delay getting over each other bcz i am still bitter and twisted about what happened or still truly, madly, deeply in love. The point to breaking up after all is that we dont see each other anymore.

There are some couples after they broke up, they are still best buddies. But then there are couples havent been able to let go of each other. Is that what i want? before i decide how to play out my recent split, i have to be aware of the let's-stay-friends pitfalls n positives.

Lets catch some tips about what im gonna do if :

If he broke it off,

When a guy breaks it off when i'm still in love with him, at 1st i go into total character assassination mode. to my friends i point out all of his flaws, from snoring to emotional immaturity & they tell me the things they secretly didnt like about him. Instantly i feel better that he wasnt the kind of guy i should waste anymore time on. Who needs him anyway? only trouble is, over time all memory of those annoying habits may start to get wiped from my hard drive. once i'm really missing the cosy day like crazy i may remember only his good points.

If i broke it off,

maybe i acted too hastily. maybe he was as good as it gets. maybe i'm a fool and i should never have dumped him. i may torture myself with these kind of thoughts n concerns months or even years after a breakup that i initiated. The problem? ongoing single status since the split can make me start to completely lose confidence in my decision. The same doubts can creep in if i've gone through quite a few relationships and they've all been dead end. but jz when im ready to beg him to come back to me, then text :P then meet up for a quick bite which seeing him again reminds me how arrogant, sarcastic, work obbessed, self centred, n vain he was. within a nanosecond  im cured of wanting him back and remainded that i was absolutely, totally, completely right to give him the flick.

 

and if my ex still hangs out with me and i can share a joke or a coffee now and then it sends a strong signal to other ppl to back off.